So I know this is a bit late and it’s like halfway through January already, however I really wanted to take the time to sit and think about what I want to get out of this year. Not resolutions that I’ll never achieve or performative goals to make it seem as if I was “productive”. This year I wanted to make promises to myself – to live life and do things that will ultimately change who I am on the inside and how I view the world around me. There’s a lot that happened in 2022 that made me realise I might not be living my life in the authentic way I want to. And I’d like to change that.
So here are 7 promises I am making myself for 2023:
- Stop placing so much emphasis and care on what other people think of me. Life is not that deep and half the time, people don’t even care as much as you think they do.
- Don’t apologise for taking up space. Don’t dim, shrink or fold into spaces too tight to fit into.
- Don’t love who I could be more than who I actually am.
- Learn to realise that not everyone is going to love like I love and to stop placing that expectation on people.
- To accept that “every thing you lose is a step you take”. Thanks Taylor.
- To not live my life waiting for someone to love me but to rather find new things to love about life everyday.
- I AM NOT BEHIND. I cannot be behind when I am on my own path. I am right where I need to be when I need to be. It is no one else’s business but my own to live a life full of MY choices.
Promises I knew I needed to make myself because these things were getting in the way of me truly feeling present in my life. I was so wrapped up in trying to please everyone around me, to fit into places too small for me, to hang on for dear life to certain people and things. I ended up tearing myself into tiny pieces and I do not recommend that to anyone. Love yourself in your entirety and you’ll have so much more to give people. And if loving yourself offends people, they probably were not meant to be in your life anyway. Sometimes people are just lessons and chapters, and sometimes they’re the whole book. But you, you are the author. Make sure your book is worth reading and you’re the main character in YOUR own story.
Happy 2023, may it be an authentic and full year. Whatever that means for you 🙂
All the love,
Jay.
Just Jay 